Sex and
Identity Coach

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empathetic leader and educator for gender and sexual diversity

Let’s discuss what genre of transformation you are hungry for, the architecture, benefits, and logistics of coaching, and if we’re a good fit for co-creation.

I use science-based strategic inquiry to partner with 2SLGBTQIA+, ethically non-monogamous, and kinky folx to create their dream relationships through couple+ and 1:1 sessions.

  • Dating, Marriage, Divorce & Breakup

    Preventing Betrayal & Infidelity

    Repairing from Betrayal & Infidelity

    Communication & Negotiation

    Trust Building & Bonding

    Empathy & Compassion

    Connection Strategies

    Self-Soothing Strategies

    Conflict Navigation & Repair

    Soft Skills & Cognitive Tools

    Relational Emotional & Erotic Intelligence

    Romance, Intimacy & Nurturance

    Desire & Eroticism

    Sex & Pleasure

    Coming Out

    Transitioning

    Ethical Non-Monogamy, Open Relationships, & Threesomes

    Kink BDSM & Fetish

    Porn, Sex, Fantasy & Love Addiction & Compulsion

    Spiritual Sex & Sensuality

 

A decade ago my journey into education began as a pleasure educator at a Queer-Feminist Sex Shop in West Hollywood and Group Counsellor for Trans & Queer youth at the Los Angeles LGBT Center.

Growing up with the shame and confusion of being pansexual and fumbling through rough relationships and marriage mistakes has given me the life experience to show up as the husband I am proud to be today.

In the present, I get to support and challenge other folx by inviting them to be themselves and design the values-influenced life and relationships of their dreams — regardless of what they’re into.

Coaching is to relationships what lube is to sex; it makes the process of achieving goals more efficient, enjoyable, and more likely to leave you and your partner satisfied!

Practically everyone can benefit from relationship coaching (obviously I am a bit biased). We’re not taught how to be in healthy relationships.

Relationship coaching for couples is a strategic partnership where a couple or couple+ relationship seeks support to get ‘unstuck,’ clarify goals and identify obstacles in a safe(r) space. As a team, a couple/couple+ and coach co-create an accomplishment strategy to achieve desired results. The coaching process helps align the partners as a team that is working together towards a common objective with the assistance of a trusted certified and experienced coach.

 

  • Certified Relationship Coach — Lumia

    Cognitive Behavioural Therapy Certificate — International Association of Therapists (IAOTH)

    Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) — International Association of Professional Coaches, Counsellors, & Therapists

    Professional Life Coach Certification — Transformation Academy

  • Gender, Inclusivity, & Sensitivity Training — Gender Justice Los Angeles

    Leadership Training — Ontario Educational Leadership Centre/Centre d'Animation Scolaire de l'Ontario (OElC/CASO)

    Sex Educator Training — The Pleasure Chest

    Sexpert Training — UCLA Arthur Ashe Student Health & Wellness Center

  • Communication Arts — Bachelors Degree from Otis College of Art & Design

    The Science of Well-Being — Yale University

    Feminism & Social Justice — University of California, Santa Cruz

    Queering Identities: LGBTQ+ Sexuality & Gender Identity — University of Colorado

    The Social Context of Mental Health & Illness — University of Toronto

 

  • Marco — data analyst / Tea lover — Toronto — He/They

    Together Chris and I strategized on a plan for me to feel confident and start dating again as a newcomer. I was insecure as a more effeminate straight man. I now realize that I am my own value-maker, I decide how well I am doing based on the metrics that I choose to measure my own worth. Chris is very fun to work with, I highly recommend to anyone who needs sex pos kink support.

  • Lexa — Writer / Sex Worker — LA — She/Her

    I’ve been in therapy and read many self-help books and I found Chris’ approach truly magnetic.

    He worked with my husband and I on our communication/conflict styles and attachment styles. As a pan woman it was invaluable having a non-judgemental space with someone who could genuinely relate and connect.

  • Akshay — Accountant / Father — Toronto — He / Him

    Chris my man!! I am so grateful for you. I am finally confident as an out bi man. Not all days are smooth but you’ve given me tools to deal during the downs! You are an expert in gender all things sex. You knew exactly where I was coming from and I never felt dumb asking questions about how to pleasure a guy :) Thank you.