Relational Philosopher & Sex Strategist
Empathetic Leader & Educator for Gender & Sexual Diversity On A Mission To End Discrimination
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I’ve Used Science-Based Strategic Inquiry To Partner With 203 2SLGBTQIA+, Ethically Non-Monogamous, Or Kinky Folx To Create Their Dream Relationships Through Couple+ & 1:1 Sessions
I am an intersectional, trauma-informed, neurodiverse-affirming, & kink-affirming Identity, Communication, Relationship Practitioner
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Dating, Marriage, Divorce & Breakup
Preventing Betrayal & Infidelity
Repairing from Betrayal & Infidelity
Communication & Negotiation
Trust Building & Bonding
Empathy & Compassion
Connection Strategies
Self-Soothing Strategies
Conflict Navigation & Repair
Soft Skills & Cognitive Tools
Relational Emotional & Erotic Intelligence
Romance, Intimacy & Nurturance
Desire & Eroticism
Sex & Pleasure
Coming Out
Transitioning
Ethical Non-Monogamy, Open Relationships, & Threesomes
Kink BDSM & Fetish
Porn, Sex, Fantasy & Love Addiction & Compulsion
Spiritual Sex & Sensuality
A decade ago my journey into education began as a pleasure educator at a Queer-Feminist Sex Shop in West Hollywood and Group Counsellor for Trans & Queer youth at the Los Angeles LGBT Center.
Growing up with the shame and confusion of being pansexual and fumbling through rough relationships and marriage mistakes has given me the life experience to show up as the husband I am proud to be today.
In the present, I get to support and challenge other folx by inviting them to be themselves and design the values-influenced life and relationships of their dreams — regardless of what they’re into.
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Certified Relationship Coach — Lumia
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy Certificate — International Association of Therapists (IAOTH)
Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) — International Association of Professional Coaches, Counsellors, & Therapists
Professional Life Coach Certification — Transformation Academy
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Gender, Inclusivity, & Sensitivity Training — Gender Justice Los Angeles
Leadership Training — Ontario Educational Leadership Centre/Centre d'Animation Scolaire de l'Ontario (OElC/CASO)
Sex Educator Training — The Pleasure Chest
Sexpert Training — UCLA Arthur Ashe Student Health & Wellness Center
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Communication Arts — Bachelors Degree from Otis College of Art & Design
The Science of Well-Being — Yale University
Feminism & Social Justice — University of California, Santa Cruz
Queering Identities: LGBTQ+ Sexuality & Gender Identity — University of Colorado
The Social Context of Mental Health & Illness — University of Toronto
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Marco — data analyst / Tea lover — Toronto — He/They
Together Chris and I strategized on a plan for me to feel confident and start dating again as a newcomer. I was insecure as a more effeminate straight man. I now realize that I am my own value-maker, I decide how well I am doing based on the metrics that I choose to measure my own worth. Chris is very fun to work with, I highly recommend to anyone who needs sex pos kink support.
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Lexa — Writer / Sex Worker — LA — She/Her
I’ve been in therapy and read many self-help books and I found Chris’ approach truly magnetic.
He worked with my husband and I on our communication/conflict styles and attachment styles. As a pan woman it was invaluable having a non-judgemental space with someone who could genuinely relate and connect.
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Akshay — Accountant / Father — Toronto — He / Him
Chris my man!! I am so grateful for you. I am finally confident as an out bi man. Not all days are smooth but you’ve given me tools to deal during the downs! You are an expert in gender all things sex. You knew exactly where I was coming from and I never felt dumb asking questions about how to pleasure a guy :) Thank you.
hurt people fuck people healed people make love
hurt people fuck people healed people make love
Coaching is to relationships what lube is to sex; it makes the process of achieving goals more efficient, enjoyable, and more likely to leave you and your partner satisfied!
Practically everyone can benefit from relationship coaching (obviously I am a bit biased). We’re not taught how to be in healthy relationships.
Relationship coaching for couples is a strategic partnership where a couple or couple+ relationship seeks support to get ‘unstuck,’ clarify goals and identify obstacles in a safe(r) space. As a team, a couple/couple+ and coach co-create an accomplishment strategy to achieve desired results. The coaching process helps align the partners as a team that is working together towards a common objective with the assistance of a trusted certified and experienced coach.
Praise & PRIDE
Transform ≠
Transact
The benefits + education of Coaching are game-changing.
Not only do they remain with you for life but you have the power to share this knowledge with others and positively impact their lives too.
I BELIEVE IF YOU ARE WILLING TO TRUST & ACCEPT GROWTH WILL HAPPEN.
IT’S NOT EASY. HAVING THE WILLINGNESS TO GROW IS HONOURABLE AF.
But
THE OTHER SIDE IS ONE STEP CLOSER TO BEING UNBOTHERABLE.
WHEN WE ARE FLEXIBLE & ADAPTABLE WE CAN SHOW UP WITH WISDOM, COMPASSION, & SPACE FOR OTHERS.
THAT’S WHAT TRUE BELONGING & CONNECTION IN RELATIONSHIPS ARE.
IN RELATIONSHIPS, WE LEARN LESSONS FOR MAXIMUM SOUL GROWTH SO THAT EACH DAY WE CAN GET ONE BREATH CLOSER TO INNER PEACE.
ONE BREATH AT A TIME.
VALUES
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Intentionalism
I live a lifestyle where my decisions and actions are dictated by my values.
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perspective
I commit to transcending my perceived personal and societal limitations through introspection so that I may ultimately help others toward such transcendence where they may choose it.
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Freedom
I believe that everyone has the fundamental right to sexual fulfillment regardless of what they’re into.
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Kindness
Growing up gay in a ‘straight man’s world’ has emboldened my commitment to supporting, holding space for, and amplifying the voices of other minorities while being mindful of any instance where I benefit from privilege.
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Responsibility
I believe that money, energy, and time we spend each day is an opportunity to invest in the kind of world we are proud to call home and are responsible for protecting.
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BRAVERY
Having the willingness to grow is honerable af.
Unless you were born in some emotionally intelligent commune deep in the heart of Brené Brown's basement, you have experienced trauma.
I live with depression and anxiety, and what gets me up every day is thinking about that 2SLGBTQIACK+ person who experiences so much shame for something so natural that they can't flourish in their career, relationships, or being. Human suffering is common and universal. Almost 100% of all people on the planet will, at some point in their life, contemplate killing themselves (Chiles & Stroshal 2004, American Psychiatric Association).
This is a rare type of work that many people will never do. My clients are exceptional and brave because they take action in areas that many of us design decisions to avoid… continue reading
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